The Small Moments Are the Point: How to Create a Life That Feels Good Now

Calm Routines

Feb 12

We create the moments of our life the minute we step out of bed.

Right then, we start deciding:

How do I want to feel today?
What do I choose first?

Do I check what my body needs—
a stretch, a rollout, a deep breath—
or do I go straight to the to-do list waiting for me on the kitchen table?

Do I feel grateful for the dishes from last night’s dinner…
or annoyed they’re still sitting in the sink?

Do I notice the sliver of moon still hanging in the dark morning sky?

Do I reach for my phone and start scrolling…
or do I reach for my pen and start journaling—getting curious about my life instead of the curated life of a creator?

Are my choices intentional… or forced?
Grounded… or rushed?

This makes a difference.

Because there are small moments of pleasure available all the time—if we take them.

Like enjoying the fireplace.
Like sitting with your coffee.
Like choosing to pause, even when time feels tight.

I lit the fireplace this morning because life is limited.

And if we’re always racing to the next thing, we miss the tiny moments of joy that make up our life.

We’re so good at calendaring the big things—the trip, the concert, the girls’ weekend—and using those future points to get us through the day-to-day.

But life—joy—happiness…
it’s built in the moments leading up to the big event.

So what changes when we see the life we’ve been given as the big event?

What changes when we make choices that feel good today—right now—so that when the weekend arrives we aren’t worn out, frustrated, and complaining about the heavy days we can’t get back?

I get it.
Days can be hard.
Life can be hard.
Parenting can be hard.

And… we still have more choice than we think.

Am I going to get spun up like a top when work overloads me—
or will I remind myself, this too shall pass… implement boundaries… and come back to the simplicity that’s always here?

Fresh air you can breathe.
The sun rising and setting.
The playfulness of your pets.

There is always something waiting for you to pause and appreciate.

The joy of life is in those small moments—each one a tiny win.

Go ahead. Take a deep breath.
Close your eyes.
Let it out slowly… while thinking of one thing you can appreciate.

Need a suggestion?

How about being alive.
Being able to breathe.
Being able to close your eyes and open them again.

You matter.
Your life matters.

Less noise. More you.

Key Reminders to Create a Life that Feels Good Now

Your day starts before your to-do list. The first 5 minutes set the tone more than the first 50 tasks.
Attention is a choice. You can look for what’s wrong… or you can look for what’s here.
Tiny moments aren’t “extra.” They’re the building blocks of a life that feels good.
The “big event” isn’t the trip or the weekend. It’s your actual life, happening in real time.
Hard days are real—and you still have agency inside them. Boundaries + breath + a small return to the present can change the whole day’s texture.
Joy is often simple. Fresh air, light, pets, coffee, a stretch, a pause—small wins that re-center you.

Simple exercise: “The 3-Minute Moment Maker”

The goal of this simple “3 Minute Moment Maker” is to create one intentional moment before you get pulled into everyone else’s pace and the noise of life.

Step 1: Pause (30 seconds)

Before your phone. Before your to-do list.
Put one hand on your chest or belly and take one slow inhale + one slow exhale.

Ask: “What do I want to feel today?”
(Choose one: calm, steady, clear, supported, grounded, open.)

Step 2: Choose (60 seconds)

Pick one “body-first” action:

stretch for 30–60 seconds
drink water
step outside and feel the air
sit upright and roll your shoulders back
light a candle / open a window

Nothing dramatic. Just a signal to your nervous system: I’m here.

Step 3: Notice (60 seconds)

Look for one tiny good thing:

the moon, the quiet, the warmth of a mug
your dog’s tail, the sky changing
the fact that you’re breathing and alive

Name it: “This counts.”

Step 4: Protect (30 seconds)

Set one micro-boundary for the next hour:

“I’m not checking email until after breakfast.”
“I’ll do one thing at a time.”
“I’ll respond, not react.”

Step 5: Anchor (optional journaling prompt, 30 seconds)

Write one line:

“Today, I create my life by ______.”

Mini challenge

Try this for 3 minutes - 3 mornings this week:

No phone for 3 minutes.
One body-first choice.
One tiny gratitude.
One micro-boundary.

Then ask: What changed in my mood, my pace, my patience?

If you feel inspired leave a comment - let me know what changed for you!

Less Noise. More You.

The Small Moments Are the Point: How to Create a Life That Feels Good Now

Key Reminders to Create a Life that Feels Good Now